I got pregnant when I was 16 years old. My family had just moved us 400 miles away from my friends and boyfriend when I found out. My first instinct was to get an abortion. I knew I was too young and my support group was on the other side of the state anyway.
I was terrified of going to the clinic. I didn't really know what to expect and I was afraid that there would be protesters outside. My mom went with me and we waited there for what seemed like forever. The other women in the waiting room were all very sympathetic and they believed that I was doing the right thing. A couple of them had done it before so they told me what to expect. They really helped calm me down. When I finally had the procedure done, it didn't seem so bad. It was over fairly quickly.
I was very depressed about it for awhile afterwards. It may have just been hormones or the recent move away from my friends. I knew I didn't want to have a kid at 16, so I don't think it was regret. Now I'm 28 and I don't regret it at all. My life would be so completely different. I would have been lucky to graduate high school, much less college. I would probably still be stuck in Ohio and would never have met the wonderful man I am married to now.
I think people should talk about these things. All of the women I work with know I had an abortion. One of the other women has had two herself. We don't regret our decisions. The other women don't begrudge us our decisions either. They believe that a woman should have the choice to have a child or not and they respect the fact that we knew we weren't ready.
